I went NC with my mother approx 14 weeks ago now. I have been working through some things in my own mind; Anger, rage, hate, hurt, devastation. I have worked really hard to put all the bad memories that keep resurfacing into perspective.
I thought things were getting better, the amount of memories I was beginning to remember has slowed right down. Until today.
I have remembered something which I had forgotten. It is an awful memory. I feel physically sick over it and have cried lots this morning already over it. I am at work so this is highly embarrassing but I have a fab boss who has let me have an extra break to get myself together.
The memory is about an incident that happened when I was about 6-7 years old. We were living at my grandparents (mothers parents) as a whole family, mother, dad, brother and myself. it was a massive house (it had front and back stairs it was so big) My dad was out of the house, probably at work or the gym. My mother was in, her aunt, my great aunt (granddads sister) was also there. My brother (the golden child) was being a little shit and 'playing' mother up. I remember her shouting at me because he was being naughty. I specifically remember her saying to me "You should keep your brother in line, you are the eldest it is up to you" I remember thinking what does keep in line mean!!!!!
I can also remember saying to my brother "please stop, she will tell me off if you don't"
He didn't stop being naughty so mother went and got the male next door neighbour and asked him to "sort QueenVick out as she wont stop playing up and her dad is out" I can remember hearing her say this to him through the open door. I was crying by this point. My aunt told my mum to stop being so dramatic and that it was my brother who needed sorting out not me.
The neighbour came in and chased me up the front stairs. I was in my nightie, I had started running when I saw him jump over the wall separating our houses. He caught me at the top of the stairs, lifted my nightie and smacked my bottom hard, repeatedly until my great aunt pulled him off me. He had this huge smile on his face like he was enjoying it and more disturbingly so did my mother who was stood at the foot of the stairs smiling and laughing at what was happening.
My bottom was red raw, I can remember not being able to sit comfortably for a few days after that.
I told my dad when he got home and he asked mother about it and she denied the whole fucking thing. My great aunt even told him but he would not believe it or chose not to believe it probably.
I feel sick to my stomach that anyone would do that to a child, a child that hadn't even done anything wrong FGS. Even a child who is misbehaving doesn't deserve that kind of treatment.
I fucking hate my nasty, bitch of a mother. I detest my father more and more as the memories keep resurfacing.
I am so very, very scared of more resurfacing.
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QueenVick · 03/10/2014 11:10
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