My H is cheating on me.
There is a huge long back story but what I want to ask about is tracking where he is going.
I know his routine well. I am thinking of planting a GPS tracker (or something else, if anyone can suggest anything)to track where he goes.
I know its illegal to track someone without their knowledge but it just so happens that he drives a car I own and thats in my name so - I will in effect be tracking my own car.
Please - I know some of you may mean well but I dont want to be told I should be putting my energy into dumping the cheating bastard and moving on. I am trying hard with that but i NEED to know.
My NEED to know who I am married to exactly and what he actually does is something I cannot get past (talking several years) and over the past few weeks when I have been the closest I have ever been to starting proceedings to leave him, I keep coming back to the fact I want, well no, I NEED to know, who I have been with for the past 20 years.
He is the perfect deceptionist. I think he sevretly thrives on the fact I only know of his cheating but do not know who, what exactly it involves. I dont even know if its other women, gang bangs, dogging, usuing prostitutes or god knows what. He drives off into the night - thats all I know. He currently thinks he is getting away with it and I am oblivious.
I just need to know this - my own little victory against him - just to know what it is he does and where he goes. He would rather see the marriage end offering no answrs than ever tell me anything at all.
I know the dynamics of our relationship are thoroughly fucked up. I have recently seen the light and with the recent help of some mumsnetters am plucking up the courage to leave - but I can't leave until I know what I want and need to know. Once I have left, I will never have the chance to find out. I need to do this for me.
So what is the easiest way for me track where he goes in my car? I dont have a spare smart phone, so not sure about aps. I need something simple to use and set up (I am a technophobe). It needs to be fairly accurate and silent and reliable. The smaller the better so I can hide it well (he hides condoms etc in the car).
So please - anyone done this? Can suggest anything? How can I easily track where my car goes?
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GPS Trackers and other useful devices
TheCheatersWife · 22/09/2014 14:03
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