Agree with pagwatch I'm afraid. Me and DP sometimes playfully do the tea towel thing if we're doing the dishes together, but never hard, we never hurt each other. Totally different if it's done in anger, with the intention of hurting you though. But throwing the glass of water, and the garden chair, even if it wasn't in your direction, totally unacceptable. I would consider it to be domestic abuse, yes
So, physical and emotional abuse going on here then ?
Did you post about the tea towel incident last year ? It sounds familiar. I expect you were told it would escalate if you did.
I think his "you would know about it" is a massive threat. He is going to do more stuff to hurt you. A little bit like you hear some parents saying to their kids "if you don't stop crying, I will give you something to cry for"
The stupid thing is, I left him for a while, he begged me to give h another chance, he had a bit of counselling, we started to get on better. I gave him another chance eventually moved back in with him, and now 4 months on I feel like I did last time I left him. He is just so intimidating I am scared to tell him that I want to leave again. I wish I could grow some balls and stand up to him.
You can contact Womens Aid to get their support in leaving and exit plan if you are truly scared. Get to CAB and see what you are entitled to as a single parent. Do you own your house together or is it rented? Then you can get onto CSA and get maintenance payments sorted out. Make sure your parents know everything that is going on. Physical, emotional and verbal abuse. They can help keep him away from you and help protect you, but they can only do that if that know what's going on. Pack you stuff up and leave.