There is a huge backstory to this, but the key points are my twunt of an ex is EA in a very vicious and manipulative way. When I divorced him I was pg and we had a small DS, and my DMIL was very supportive of me.
It's now 2.5 years later, twunt has just married OW who is 6 months pregnant. He has lied, manipulated and twisted things for so long that I am simply used to it now and have disengaged as much as poss from him, but I'm still close to DMIL. She supervised contact for the DC for a v long time and has been brilliant, so there is no question I would stop contact with her.
Anyway, twunt didn't want me to find out he was marrying OW, despite the fact he was planning to take our two DC (now 2 and 4) to the wedding. I realised about 3 days beforehand it was happenng, decided to cut through his nonsense and called him to congratulate them (which I did) and let him know that asking other people to lie about it happening was not necessary because I had no issue with them getting hitched, beyond the boys enjoying the day (and being prepared for it).
I thought it was the right thing to do but I've just discovered that he has been verbally abusing DMIL ever since (about a fortnight) and tried to disinvite her to the wedding, let her pay for it (don't even know where to start with that one, but yes, he's FA as well) but has been sending her emails and texts basically tearing her to shreds because he thinks she told me they were getting married. Which she categorically didn't.
I just need to vent because I can't do anything about it at all. If I said anything to him it would make him worse, plus I just don't want to get involved. He was, is and always will be abusive. He switched from abusing me to abusing his mother about a year after we split when I cut all contact with him and the DC had contact through MIL. He's just married OW, and not one single person from her friends/family were invited, plus he made the occasion vile for the people from his family who tried to come. :( I actually feel very sorry for OW now, and furious with twunt for being such a total arsewipe.
I cannot and will not get involved - I only know how badly he's treating DMIL because I rang to invite her to sunday lunch with the DC, which is the first time we've done something together for the whole summer. So I'm not in her pocket or making his life hard in that respect. But she is so beaten down by him and I am furious. What an absolute utter bastard.
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chocoraisin · 01/09/2014 14:02
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