New to the Forum so please bear with me and I hope this original post doesn't ramble on too long. So... married four months but together coming up two years this Autumn. He's emotionally abusive and it started 10 days after he moved in. I guess I let it go because surely I am STUPID.
Regular verbal abuse but still I married him. I issued an ultimatum before we got married that he needed to get help but he didn't. And yet I married him. I have issued another one just four weeks ago and now he is having counselling - but I fear it's the "wrong sort", if you see what I mean as the abuse last night/this morning.
I committed the unforgivable (apparently) sin of drawing attention to him insulting me that morning, which led to him:
Calling me a f c (3 or 4 times)
Telling me he hates me
Telling me I'm a f* bitch etc etc
Blaming me for everything
Telling me I have REAL issues
Launching a cushion into my face with full force twice (sounds ridiculous but it was very humiliating)
Taking off his wedding ring and smashing it so that it is now warped and totally unwearable. It's ruined...the ring I gave him on our wedding day.
Telling me I sounded like a "nutter" when I couldn't stop sobbing.
Telling me our marriage was over again and again and again. Or rather, shouting it.
Goading me to call the Police
So...the next day (today) I did. I reported a domestic violence incident on the 101 number but unknown to me, it led to three police officers turning up at our door because he is/was still there - in the marital home, that is.
On their supervision/advice (I think) he has packed a bag and left. He didn't say goodbye. They almost marched him out of our flat and kept us apart. He said that there would be "no reconciliation". I don't know where he is.
I'm so very sad.
How do you lovely ladies deal with hideous situations like this? I sure as hell don't deserve this and I didn't cause it. His mangled wedding ring is lying on the table in front of me. Sorry this is so long.
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