Would really appreciate some advice on this as I'm not sure what is for the best. STBXH and I will also be having Relate 'separation counselling' which I guess will include this type of thing but some practical examples would be great. I have read some research that 50/50 care is not necessarily best for the children so obviously I'm worried about that.
DD1 is 7 and DD2 is 3. STBXH and I will be living on the same road, 2 minutes walk apart. We both work full time, DD1 is at school and after school club and DD2 is at nursery. We split childcare during the week 50/50 at present, STBXH does mornings as I start work at 8am and I do evenings as he works until around 6pm. However post separation we will be able to adust our working hours to do mornings and evenings on 'our' days.
At weekends we tend to all hang out together unless one of us has work to do.
Don't know if it's relevant but we both arrange play dates and take the children to their various activities outside of school so all that is already shared as well.
So, let's get to the point!! We want to share care 50/50 as we feel that is best and equal for the children but we don't want to confuse or upset the children any more than they will be anyway. Does anyone have experience of a successful 50/50 share and if so what was the pattern of days? What are the pitfalls and what are the benefits of this kind of care?
I am aware of the need for constant communication with STBXH once we split and I think this will be fine. The split is pretty amicable and we already run our lives on emails, reminders and a shared diary.
Thanks very much for any thoughts and sorry this is long!
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Advice for 50/50 care for children after separation
Kracken · 18/08/2014 07:29
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