Sorry it may be a long one I have name changed so this isn't connected to my usual name.
So DH and I went out for the evening with PILs and DHs aunt who is more like a sister to him. We went to a local restaurant and we had our food when two old 'friends' turn up who I shall call Bob and Lisa.
Bob was DHs best friend in secondary school but when DH got married and started to settle down he and Bob drifted apart. Bob didn't like me very much as he thinks it was my fault that DH started to settle down. (Which I suppose in a way it was) Bob and DH haven't spoken for a couple of years as Bob moved away with Lisa.
Lisa was my best friend in secondary school until I had my DCs. She got me through some tough times during my teens and we were close however as soon as I became pregnant she stopped talking to me then when I announced my DCs godparents she got upset with me because she wasn't one of them. I haven't spoken to her for about 6 years.
Bob and Lisa met through me and DH and have been together for about 10 years. From what other friends and family have told me since moving two years ago they have begun taking drugs and have quit their jobs.
Although me and DH aren't in contact with them DHs aunt is still friendly with them.
So we have our food and we see them and DHs aunt invites them to talk to us.They ignored us at first despite us saying hello they just kept talking to aunt. They were obviously a bit tipsy so we talked amongst ourselves and left them to it.
Then Lisa turned and looked at our food and said oh look at "soyou"s choice of food I guess that's why you put on weight. I just looked at her and aunt said oh no "soyou" is pregnant with twins. Lisa laughed and said oh great more short kids in the world then she and Bob laughed. I ignored them as did everyone else at the table.
Then Bob asked DH why he was put and before DH could answer he said oh I bet she only let you come because she was invited. He told him not to be an idiot and pointed out that his parents were here.
So they continued talking to aunt and we finished our meal and FIL ordered dessert and Bob and Lisa got a table next to us so they could talk to aunt and get their food.
Then as we were talk Lisa got up to go to the toilet and on the way past she said to DH I am surprised you want more DCs with "soyou" with all her mental health issues she must be a liability. (I had depression and anxiety as a teen) PILs were obviously embarrassed and I don't know how much DH has told them about my issues but PILs have never talked about it with me.
DH said that was enough now and she needed to back off. Bob then came to the table and told DH not to be rude to Lisa or he would start telling everyone "the truth" PILs tried to call the waiting staff over and Bob said that he would sit back down. But as he did he said VERY loudly well we all know that her dad used to touch her up as a kid so it's not a secret.
(Only DH and Lisa know about this so it is a secret) I just got up and went to leave and as I did Bob started laughing so DH punched him.
Then the staff called the police and we had to wait and they took statements and everyone was looking at us. Then aunt started getting getting upset saying that it was my fault for being oversensitive and I am responsible if DH has to go to prison for this. PILs barely spoke to us.
We got home and DH was upset for me and because he hit someone and it may effect his job then he fell asleep and I am still awake thinking about it and I don't want to wake DH just so he can worry but I feel really lonely so I am venting here to calm me down a bit.
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soyouwontnoitsme · 10/08/2014 00:17
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