I'd really like to know whether it's possible for an affair to have zero impact on a marriage if the wife/husband doesn't know that their spouse is cheating?
Is it possible to really keep an affair and marriage completely separate and distinct? To 'compartmentalise' to such an extent that a husband/wife is maintained as the primary relationship and there is no 'crossover' of priorities, that the husband/wife continues to put their spouse first?
I think it would take the most extraordinary level of selfishness and deceit to achieve this but maybe that capacity for deceit is already there?
I have a reason for asking; my friend (whose ended affair I've mentioned) seems to have re-written it in her head and says it had no impact to his wife until she found out about it. I disagree with her.
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Is it EVER possible for an affair to have ZERO impact on a marriage?
LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 27/07/2014 14:50
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