I've been married for over 10 yrs to DH and we have 2 kids. We live hours away from my parents we see about 3 times a year. In the past year or so, I've noticed that they're often cold towards him, and that my mum, especially, can be rather snappy with him.
DH is an intelligent, funny, nice guy. We bicker. Not loads but probably too much for my liking. I've had issues with the way he talks to me which he sometimes acknowledges. But generally it's happy marriage.
I've suspected that my parents don't like the way he can talks down to me - I've told him to be aware of this and not to provoke any bickering in front of them. He agreed.
Last week we stayed with my parents for a week and it was awful. We had a couple of bickers whilst we were there - in front of my parent. I was cross at my DH for this. Anyway, my parents basically ignored DH for the entire stay and when they did talk to him, were short & rude. He's not stupid; he felt it. I was really upset and mentioned it to my sister yesterday who then (with my permission) discussed it with my mum. In a nutshell, both my parents don't like the way DH talks to me and they worry that our DD will learn that this is acceptable.
I haven't spoken directly with my parents about this - I still feel upset that they were so awful last week. I've discussed with with DH and he feels terrible but also angry at my parents. I'm being pathetic but what can I do? Counseling for me & DH? I know I need to talk to my parents but at the mo I'm too upset. What a head fuck.
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my parents don't like the way my DH talks to me & I'm stuck in the middle
Mummyisamonster · 15/06/2014 09:48
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