Offered a all expense paid trip abroad.... But there is a catch

[Ibizababe]

Met someone through work 9 months ago while they were were the main contractor to carry out refurb at my place of work. Got on great, lots of chemistry, flirting extra!

There contracted finished beginging of this year and he went abroad (Spain) to work on his next contract and he is still there!

We have kept in regular touch through phone text and email and yesterday he has offered me a long weekend (all paid for) to fly out on visit him in 2 weeks time!

Course I would usually jump at the chance, and why not never know what might come of it!

Catch is I found out around the time he was leaving that I was pregnsnt, now I'm 24 weeks, I'm not with father we split just before I found out I was pregnsnt!

I did tell him last night about the baby and he didn't seem to concerned and it looks like offer is still on!

I can't go can I?

[CuttedUpPear]

Go!

[rockybalboa]

Go!! He says baby-on-board is fine so go. As long as you're happy he's not a nutter and you can afford a back up plan if you're not comfortable.

[something2say]

Do you think now is a good time to begin a relationship?

[frames]

Go. See what happens

[Ibizababe]

Not looking at it to start a new relationship, we get on well and like each other slot, I was looking at it more as a "let's spend sometime getting to know one another more" he is going to be working abroad until oct/no this year anyway, might not lead to anything in the future but then again once he is bavk who knows what might happen

[Walkacrossthesand]

My SIL met my brother when she was preggers and had split up with the baby's dad. They're still together, with a few more DCs, nearly 30 years later! Just saying...

[BankWadger]

Are pregnant single women not allowed relationships then something? How terribly lonely.

[heyday]

Have you got any idea what he is expecting? Just friendship, starting of relationship, sex? You seem quite trusting of him so why not go. It might be a lovely little break just before the onset of single parenthood. Make sure you have plenty of travel insurance cover just incase you need any unexpected treatment whilst you are there and other than that have a wonderful time.

[Ibizababe]

I think I will give it a few days to let the pregnancy news settle in and see if he is still keen on the idea then! If so I will go ahead and let him book the tickets!

[Meeeep]

Go, it's one weekend. If it bombs it bombs. You may establish a good friendship over that weekend might be something more might amount to nothing but let's face it, it's a few days away that could potentially be your last "alone holiday" for a while.

I say go soak up some rays

[Alwaysbuybigpants]

Go! Lucky you.

[Only1scoop]

Accept if you'd like to go ....but be cautious as with anyone you don't really know.

[Shakey1500]

Andy Really? What an awful turn of phrase.

Op, obviously you should remain indoors for the rest of your pregnancy lest you catch someone's eye and, heaven forbid, have a life outside.

Go. Life is too short.

[youbethemummylion]

You assumed there would be sex (if thats what 'taking in another cock' means) AndyYorke op never said thays what she was going for men and women can spend time together without having to have sex you know. Even if they did so what babies dad not in the picture romantically.

[ShutTheFuckUpBarbara]

Andy seriously?

So when a woman is pregnant she should just stop doing anything else but be pregnant?

Why on earth?


OP, if it feels right then go for it!

[Missda]

Go, enjoy and have fun.
Andy just get on your and bugger off!

[AuntieStella]

Yes, I think you should let te news of your PG sink in and then see you both think it's a good idea.

He's not such a good friend if you didn't mention the PG until 24 weeks (I know some people prefer late announcements, but that's very late).

No reason why you can't go for a nice weekend with someone you're only on generally friendly terms with, of course. But he may, reasonably, conclude that what he thought was a good friendship he now sees as more superficial because you didn't share important things that are happening for you.

[OcadoSubstitutedMyHummus]

On a purely practical basis, travel insurance will be a big issue. You would need to ensure you had a policy that would cover you for any pregnancy issues at that stage in pregnancy as many won't.

[WildBill]

I don't think it's going to be a 'getting to know you' trip. He will be expecting a shagfest weekend, he's paying to fly you out there, he doesn't want just friendship.
I'm not a prude but it's borderline icky. Let news of your pg sink in first, let him visit you if he's that keen.

[MeMyselfAnd1]

You didn't mention you were pregnant in all this time? Why?

I agree that you need to let the news sink before contacting him, but if I were you I would wait for him to contact you instead. I suppose that if I found myself in his position, I would be wondering why I would pay for someone to visit if that someone couldn't mention something so relevant in the development of a relationship.

[Trapper]

Definitely go. Have a great weekend.

Ensure you have access to funds so you can be independent if you need to be (eg to get yourself a hotel for the night if you want to).

Don't forget to report back!

[bragmatic]

I'm with Andy. You should stay at home. Bar the windows and doors, and never, ever have sex again. Ever. Never, uh uh, nevernevernever.

You should probably never speak with a man again. Just to be on the safe side.