My husband has not worked for approx 4 years now after being made redundant . Prior to that he was in / out of work for years and I have always earned more than him . He has been browsing ebay and buying small items which with postage amount to between £60 -£100 per month He has maxed out his credit card and added the joint current account to paypal so is easy to but stuff at click of a switch . My modest salary of about £1800 per month is pretty stretched and I have told him to take us off paypal but he still hasn't several weeks later . I told him to contact his credit card provider to say he no longer works but he says as a married couple , I am responsible for his debts , which I think is not correct ? This is just the tip of the iceberg in our marriage which has been under strain recently due to him not appearing to care much about our 3 children , does very little by way of housework , doesn't drive and so cannot do any shopping , taxiing kids about etc . I do all that as well as being in full time work .Basically he just watches tv all day .He resents me asking him to find a job and raises his voice saying there is no work but refuses to look ! I would love to leave and take the kids with me . Obviously they would have the choice as they are aged 12 -15 but I strongly suspect they will go with the parent who looks after them best . If I did leave it would mean paying our small mortgage as well as rent for a new home as he would not leave ( already discussed with him ) . I resent living with someone who I feel is taking the piss . Can anyone offer some advice on my legal position or has anyone been through this already ?
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