I'm on the edge. Been living with a man for around a year and a half and almost from the beginning he's been controlling and nasty. He used to need a drink before the real him came out but now it's just whenever he feels like it. He tells me I don't love him, don't respect him, don't like his kids, don't like him spending time with his kids, he makes up scenarios like "you have a problem with my kids coming" and then punishes me for that with silent treatment or disappointed shakes of the head I feel like a small child who is a constant disappointment to her father. If I dare voice any kind of opinion or question anything he says or does he reacts aggressively, won't talk about it but instead starts shouting over me, swearing, not letting me get a word in, starts being nasty and insulting. An example was the other day£20 went missing. I was upset because we 're so short of money right now and mentioned to him that it had been lost. He went mental shouting"so??? If it has it has!! How dare you accuse me!! (I didn't!) I don't want to hear it! I can't be doing with your scatter brain persona " Ooooohhhh I've lost money help!" Fucking hell I can't be doing with it! It's fucking lost, you probably lost it because your fucking careless!! I thought you were more intelligent than this!"
I just wanted to cry, all I was saying was that £20 was missing and could we have a go at finding it. I can't say anything to him. Constant aggressive snapping and silent treatment when I step out of line. I'm almost frightened of him. Sometimes he can be adorable and so sweet and then he turns and he's a totally different man.
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Constant emotional punishment - is this abuse???
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MuckyGoggs · 28/05/2014 21:00
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