I am with a wonderful partner who I realise now I am not in love with and don't fancy enough. See 'is settling always a bad thing?' Thread (answer-yes). We have a 4 month old and it has just hit me like a tidal wave that it isn't right. I want to be a good person as I love him so much, but I suffer from depression and anxiety and I'm not sure I could cope without him. Rents are such that I couldn't afford to live near him, and I feel wretched about depriving him of his daughter. I feel suicidal a lot as can't see a way forward. The last year has been genuinely happy and I thought I had finally committed so he, and I, am bewildered as to how I am feeling now. I don't want to be a bad person and want to do right by dp and dd. friends have suggested we live as friends as co parents at least for her first year, but will this not be torture for dp? He wants this too but I think because it gives him hope. I am a teacher and find work incredibly stressful so when I go back I know I will lean on him for help and not want to leave. I of course made a terrible mistake and I want to make things right, but how? Every way I look seems impossible. I hate myself for what I've done. I'm not sleeping even when dd does and feel I'm losing my mind. We work so well as a team - why can't this be enough?
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