First of all a disclaimer - l know that l am being stupid and I really apologise to those of you going through serious difficulties. However l recently lost Mum, and she's the one who would normally tell me to stop being so stupid!
Anyway, almost 2 years ago I split up with my not very nice husband. A year after this I got together with my now partner. We knew each other previously but lost touch due to me moving away from the area. Anyway to cut a long story short 8 months later we are utterly besotted with each other and next month are moving in together. I've never felt like this about anyone - he is generous, funny, gorgeous and we would both do anything for each other.
The only thing that concerns me is money. I come from a very traditional family where my mum was a housewife and daddy made the money. From an early age I had 'man should be the provider' instilled in me.
I earn a very good salary for my age, almost treble that of my partner. He earns about 25k with limited prospects. However he has a lovely house without a massive mortgage and is very sensible with money. Realistically it is unlikely that we will ever have money issues, especially as his house (where I am moving to) is in a very inexpensive area. However im so scared that I will end up resenting him for earning so much less than me, even though logically I know it doesnt matter at all. I felt like it with my ex-husband but that was compounded by the fact he was emotionally abusive! The irony is that im not a money grabber at all - I have dated some very high earners but wasnt remotely interested as there was no spark there. So how do I stop this fear that I will end up thinking less of him? Sorry again.
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