In a nutshell, 1 year ago I found intimate photos from DH's phone, I confronted him and he confessed that he had been exchanging photos with another woman. He had deleted everything but they were on a back up but not what he had sent her which he conveniently can't remember. He can't remember what he sent, how many times it happened or anything he said to her, only the photos remain so I don't know anything of what was said between them. He promises me that things never went further and due to working, etc. I believe that to be true.
I felt destroyed, he really is the last person I would have expected this from, he has been a great husband and I can't put into words how shocked I and the two other people I confided in were. TBH I think my friends convinced me to stay and work things out. We have a young DD.
A while after this, I found out he had been messaging someone else and again sending pictures. The worst thing is this time I found the messages where he was telling this woman things about me, things that were not true (and ridiculous) she was obviously conscious about her body and he was telling her how wonderful she was, even going as far as saying I was 2 clothes sizes bigger than I was. She asked about me and he lied to her saying we had no physical relationship and she was better than me in many ways. Again, I confronted him and he said it was just silly and harmless fun.
If I have caught him out twice I'm starting to doubt how many others there have been.
Has anyone been through anything like this? I just can't comprehend his behaviour, he is a very loving and kind person, things I have read you honestly would not think were from the same person, its like a complete alter-ego.
I've struggled with what happened the first time as its someone I know and the more time passes the angrier I get and I really want to confront her about it. I can't help but think that one could well have gone further. I'm heartbroken because I love him and I thought he loved me. I really don't know what to do as I feel I need to know exactly what went on but all I get from him is 'I can't remember'.
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Emotional affair I can not get over
justcantforgetit · 13/05/2014 12:09
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