On friday evening I went to my cousins hen night. It was in a pretty well known night club which is not my usual sort of place. It was one where the night started early with a meal and a cabaret (dreadful) and free entry to the club for those who want to stay on. I had not planned to stay that late but another younger cousin on mine wanted to stay for a while and I was giving her a life home so I stayed. At about 10.30pm we went downstairs to the main club and it was dead except for a group of men who turned out to be some players from a local football club. I am 35 and my younger cousin is 26 and very pretty so she very quickly attracted attention. She was talking to one of the players and I got talking to the teams manager (he is about 40ish) who was with him. I happened to know how he was and that he was married with children. I was wearing my wedding ring so we chatted and that was it, we did really get on he bought me a couple of soft drinks and he was a lovely guy. We mainly spoke about our families and it turns out one of my close friends is married to one of his old school friends and I had a nice time. I don't think the club was really either of our usual sort of place and I think we were a welcome distraction for each other.
Anyway the club filled up and more of my family had come down from the function area. The cousin who I had come down with was off talking to someone else and it was just me with the manager. I didn't think anything of it until I noticed that my one of my cousins wife was giving me dirty looks and gesturing at me. She had had way too much to drink so I ignored her. When it got to about 12.30 was ready for my bed and said goodbye to the man I had been chatting to. He said it had been lovely to meet me and he kissed me on the cheek. That was it.
I then went over to my family to get the cousin I was taking home and got an earful of abuse from my cousins wife who had been staring at me, she was drunk and was accusing me of getting with this man and said she had seen us swap numbers. The only time he had his phone out was when he showed me pictures of his kids! I tried to explain but she kept saying how she hated cheats more than anything and eventually I just said there was no point talking to her until she was sober and walked away with the cousin I was talking home.
Obviously its difficult for me to say how it looked from accross the room but while I thought he was a lovely and attractive man I wasn't swooning over him and he wasn't pawing at me we just talked. I have equal male and female friends so it is normal for me (as I am sure it is for many others) to talk to the opposite sex with no ulterior motive.
Anyway over the weekend it has caused a bit of a scandel in my family and I'm very embarressed by it all. I'm annoyed at my cousins wife for stiring things up. I told my husband about it and he just laughed but I feel like some are taking me for a scarlett woman!
I am sure if he hadn't been a recognisable person it wouldn't have been such an issue but its been blown out of proportion. I am sure it will all be forgotten about but I am still pretty angry at how it has been taken by certain people. Honestly its my 1st time at a club in about 10 years and this happens!
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violetpsyche · 11/05/2014 21:51
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