Met a man in work, we sort of dated for a couple of months last year but for the past 8 months we are 'friends' but very much on his terms. I don't think he's very nice to me but I'm struggling to hold firm and tell him to do one- this totally frustrates me as I recognise he's ea but sometimes think maybe it's me being overly sensitive. Every time I tell him to go away he takes no notice.
Amongst other things he makes snide comments about my weight- he knows I put on a lot of weight with medication and he knows I find it hurtful as we have had so many arguments about this.
He follows me around- so much so that people refer to him as my 'stalker' yet he doesn't want me.
He's very passive aggressive and very good at the silent treatment, if I say I'm unhappy he takes more and more things off me- it feels like punishment so that now I'm scared to say I'm unhappy as I always lose out more
He makes reference to there maybe other women in my workplace that he has liaisons with
He told some serious lies right at the beginning of the relationship about things he had no reason to lie about and when asked why he had done it he told me it was none of my business
He's very secretive and struggles with intimacy and commitment in all areas of his life
He's very intense but on his terms only and there's something about him that makes me nervous- he has a dark edge; is rough sexually; has a poor attitude to women- some of which appears cultural and he lost his temper with me once but didn't hit me. He makes reference that I would probably enjoy a bit of violence.
He always tries to make out he's gonna leave- disappear but never does which makes me anxious. At the moment he refuses any telephone contact texts calls etc but still hangs around me which makes me really confused.
He can be cruel - flirtatious and when I take the bait he tells me 'it's ok I don't want to go there again'.
In summary writing this down helps, I think I know what's going on here but feel like I'm in a spin and find I'm up and down with him- he then accuses me of blowing hot and cold and being emotionally unstable. He works in psychiatry.
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I don't think he's very nice to me
Wheretheresawill1 · 11/05/2014 10:58
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