Basically, what the thread title says. I've been with him for about 6 months now. He's always been very affectionate, very keen, thoughful and supportive, and constantly wanted me around. We work together and I spend most of my time at his place (a lot of the time at his insistence!). We have a genuinely great time together and he's always ridiculously physically affectionate. The only thing that's been off recently is our sex life. For the past month we've had sex 3 times, not brilliant by anyone's standard. I was worried, but he told me it was due to having so much work to do for university. Hah!
I was suspicious of a girl he was friends with from back home (he's Polish) and the amount they were chatting on facebook, so when he popped out the other night I shamefully gave in to my suspicions and looked through his facebook messages. Along with days and days worth of conversations there were a couple of pictures of her in her underwear :/ This is now the third relationship I've had where my partner has cheated on me. Three out of 5, not a brilliant statistic really, is it?
Anyway, we had it out and it eventually came out that he wasn't sure if he thought of me as a friend or girlfriend, and hadn't been for about a month or so. Other than the sex I honestly can't see how anything changed. He'd cuddle me every night before sleep, and I'd always be woken up by him putting his arms around me. He was so physically affectionate, even at work, that people would often take the piss and tell us to get a room (even up til a few days ago!) The day we broke up when I came over to his he opened the door to me with a massive smile, and immediately drew me in for a kiss, later in the day he came up to me and started kissing me and telling me how much he liked me. Apologies for the essay, I'm just finding it very hard to rationalize and was wondering if anyone else has had similar experiences? Things stopped with the other girl from Poland about a week ago, he told her he didn't want anything with her. Apologies for the essay!
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Roseflowers · 10/05/2014 14:12
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