DH told me this morning he has had an affair - I think i'm in shock -I cant believe that he has done this to me. He has lied to everyone.
to cut a long story short I posted 3days before Xmas that he had come out with the "no longer loves me"- we got through xmas but by end of jan I had had enough & got him to leave. Midway through feb I found out he was majorly depressed & having a breakdown - he came home so i could look after him as he wasnt eating or sleeping & was a mess.
Today he tells me he has been having an affair with an employee that started before xmas & that he ended mid feb. He is the boss.
so after getting him over the worst of his depression & hearing him tell me he had wanted to end his life he goes on his first work meeting -ends up having dinner with her & doesnt come home when he says he will.
Today when I instigate a talk he tells me this & then tells me OW DH had phoned him yesterday basically threatening to tell me.
I dont really know why im posting on here as i know you are all going to tell me to get him to leave. i was so angry with him this morning I made him phone my DF & FIL to tell them that he had lied. They are both telling me not to act rashly. I have spent the day doing the garden - the kids know - in a moment of anger i said i would be better off if he had done something to himself - i have had to refrain from posting on OW twitter account.
I really dont know what I am going to do - i have even thought of taking revenge in a one night stand - just so I can tell him it made me feel good.
I just can't believe he has done this - 20 years married this year - infact i know what i am doing i dont want to believe it as i think i may fall apart
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the ultimate betrayal - you were all right - think im in shock
piginpoo · 03/05/2014 18:22
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