I was talking to a friend, who was saying she'd had the sort of day where it was a struggle to stay professional, because the client was very attractive and distracting. It was apparently mutual, so mutually awkward. Apparently a girl always knows.
Do they, though? I couldn't tell as a girl, and I can't tell now I've reached my 40s. She says it's never come as a surprise, to know a man is attracted to her. I certainly have, to the point of speechlessness in one case. In some cases, I have been able to tell (not necessarily when it's been mutual.) In some cases, I have hoped it was, but it's turned out to be my over-hopeful imagination running riot.
I think possibly she expects to be found attractive. I never have. So perhaps we find the evidence we expect. Only I have also lived through the humiliation of thinking they were attracted, to be told very bluntly they weren't. So now, if people seem attracted to me, I tend to assume they're just being kind. I know some people like me, but as a colleague said when I picked him up on some sexist comment about a woman who walked past, "Oh, you don't count, you're one of us," so they just don't see me as a woman you'd be attracted to.
Is it just me? Does everyone else always know when someone's attracted to them?
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EBearhug · 01/05/2014 21:56
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