To try and keep this brief following the birth of my son 3 years ago I have had no end of problems with my parents in law. I struggled to cope after the birth although at the time I couldn't admit to this and tried to manage everything myself which had an impact on my relationship with my husband which we worked through.
However the same cannot be said of my i laws they had v specific of how their relationship interaction would be with my son and unfortunately we didn.t always agree on this. It all cumulated in a huge row between my husband and they basically disowned us all on the spot due to our unreasonable behaviour... Could give u numerous of examples quoted from me asking my fil not to disturb my sons sleep one night and daring to suggest he comes around when he is awake to me not laughing to one of there friends jokes...
They refused to see any of us for nearly 3 years even walking last and ignoring us in the street still hit sure how they could do that to their grandson. The fallout of this on my husband was awful he lost his job (had worked in family business) and suffered severe depression I supported him best I could through this difficult time.
Eventually contact was made and they resumed a relationship with my son and husband but clearly stated that I was not a good person and they would never have any relationship with me. I thought I could cope with this but I gave struggled so much to accept it over last 6 months.
This caused huge problems with my husband to point we are considering divorce, this is last thing I want but cannot deal with the rejection.
I cannot get over the fact my husband is happy to go along with this and has not questioned their decisions. I feel completely betrayed by hime and my resentment keeps growing which just pushes him further away and towards them. I know if it came to a choice. He would choose them they have completely blinded him and now I am the bad guy and just cannot win.
Should I learn to live with this rejection or admit defeat and give up on my mariage which I know is there ultimate aim, and as they say they always get what they want...
Can I get past this?
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My in laws refuse to have a relationship with me -can my marriage survive this
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Booboo0910 · 24/04/2014 20:38
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