I have a close friend that I've been friends with for over 20 years; we were at secondary school together. We're good friends but we're not inseparable.
About 2 years ago my friend became good friends with another woman, whom she met through the school that her DC goes to. The woman's child is in the same year as my friend's child.
Since they became good friends, my friend has often brought this other woman along when we meet up. Which is fine, because the more the merrier and all that. However there's often a bit of a vibe that this other woman just doesn't like me. It's really hard to put my finger on it, but there is a definite frostiness from her, and I'm really unsure about how to deal with it.
For example, when we're all chatting she is always very "off" with me, whilst at the same time being warm and friendly towards me friend. I'll ask her a question and get a one word answer, or sometimes she'll take the mickey quite nastily out of something I've talked about and then explode in peals of laughter, whilst looking at my friend. I am a warm, friendly, chatty person, and I always try to treat people like I would like to be treated myself, so I don't think I'm coming across as aloof or unfriendly or anything like that.
Generally if ever there is anyone else there, she is always nice to them but is just so frosty with me. We are facebook friends and I make an effort to like and comment on her photos and statuses when I go on there, but she has never once commented on or liked anything of mine. I know Facebook is rubbish and not a true indication of real life, however she is on there all the time and I see on my newsfeed that she is very active on there and chatty and friendly, yet she snubs me.
I am really at a loss as to why she is like this. The only thing that I can think of, is that my friend has form for being bitchy about others behind their backs (she has been a bit bitchy about this woman's size/weight behind her back in the past), and that this woman has decided that she doesn't like me because my friend has bitched about me. I've always kind of turned a blind eye to my friend's bitching and just assumed she doesn't do it about me, but she must, as she does it about others, surely?
I just wondered if anyone had any advice on how to deal with the woman that doesn't seem to like me? Should I tackle her?
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How do you deal with someone that doesn't seem to like you?
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