I posted earlier on in the lone parents section about wanting to leave my H. He is emotionally abusive and financially as well. We have ds who is 18 months old, and I am a SAHM. Since I quit work he does not let me have access to his bank account (it's not a joint one) and I have to ask him for money. He will then decide whether I "deserve" it or not by looking to see how well I have cleaned the house, etc. It is only recently that I have plucked up courage to think about leaving, as ds is starting to copy the things H says (mummy lazy etc). I don't want my son thinking this is an acceptable way to treat women.
Because I don't have a job, I would have to go on benefits for a little while (this is something I don't want to do, but I'm hoping it won't be for long). I could not afford to pay the rent and bills on this place so I would have to move out. I have been doing so much research into it and it seems impossible for me to afford. I have no money of my own apart from the CB I get every month and what little H deems I am "allowed". Everywhere I am looking seems like they wouldn't accept housing benefit and I have nothing for a deposit. I am wary of going to the council as the council houses where I live are in very rough areas and I would be a bit scared to live there. The only option I can see is going to stay with my parents for a bit, but it seems like it could be months before I could afford my own place. I feel like I'm stuck.
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hadenough23 · 10/04/2014 17:34
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