I feel like a spinning top.
Dd2,(45) suffered depression for many years, threats of suicide, going nc with each family member , one by one, eventually going nc with me-dm-.-long backstory, but the basic facts are relevant to now.
( I supported and helped her through the sadness and fear, particularly never knowing if she had indeed committed suicide, fearful when going to her house, which incidentally I brought her)
She "instructed" me if I had a relationship with dd1,(49) she would never speak to me again , that she hated dd1, and would never speak to her again.
One day she would be kind to me, we would go shopping together, but in the wink of an eye, she would refuse to reply to emails/texts/phone calls.
She also said the same about ds (45).
I kindly explained that my relationship with dd1 and ds was not negotiable, but she cut all ties with us all.
That was a number of years ago.
Dd1 and ds live and work together, and have a happy and successful relationship.
Three weeks ago, and out of the blue, dd2 emailed dd1, asking how she was, and talking about her life etc, as though nothing happened in the past.
Dd1 replies to her sisters emails, but says she is concerned to resume contact as previous reconciliations have been fragile and destructive.
Dd2 never asks about me or ds, as though we don't exist.
Dd2 never asks about other family members she has inexplicably gone nc in the past, which has left them reeling in shock and sadness.
My question is this, am I feeling "jealous" that dd2 has chosen to contact dd1,( it has been many years since the nc) instead of me her mum ,who loved and supported her unconditionally for over 4 decades.
Dd1 wants her sibling in her life, but it could be manipulative on the part of dd2, as if they meet in a few weeks time, dd1 will feel uncomfortable, knowing dd2 won't speak to anyone else in the family.
To be honest, I personally felt "safer" when the only contact I had in my life was with dd1 and ds.
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dd2nc with everyone, then after years suddenly contacted dd1
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liveinbubble · 03/04/2014 17:06
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