I think I know already that responses to this will be "Get a grip" but still .....
One of my dearest friend's is having a party to celebrate a big birthday in a couple of Saturdays' time. Me, my DD and my BF have been invited and can stay overnight. She lives a couple of hours' drive away these days and we don't get to see each other too often so was really excited to get this chance to go and see her.
My BF sees his DS (13) every Saturday. Party starts at 8 pm so realistically we'd need to leave at 6 pm latest. DD and I already have plans for the afternoon so couldn't leave much earlier than this anyway. But BF has said he won't go, on the basis he drops his DS off at 6.30 pm. I asked if maybe for once he could drop him off just half-hour earlier and he said no. So I suggested we just go once he's dropped DS off, but again got a no. His reasoning was that sometimes his ex-wife works late on a Saturday (and sometimes she just pisses him about on return times anyway). His ex-wife lives with her new partner, so I asked why he couldn't drop DS at home to the partner instead if ex-wife isn't there. Again, he said no.
Now I know in the great scheme of things, this isn't the end of the world, and DD and I WILL go to the party regardless. But it would have been nice for BF to come too. Our time together is quite limited anyway due to work commitments, time with our respective kids, etc., so opportunities to spend time together are precious. Would it really kill him to drop DS off either half-hour earlier than normal OR to his mum's partner rather than his mum? BF has taken the following week off work and has his DS staying with him the whole week, so it's not like he isn't going to see him again for ages.
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Prforone · 02/04/2014 22:17
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