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Is this a red flag? Or am I being too cautious? (online dating)

(81 Posts)
MardyPants Wed 02-Apr-14 16:50:41

So I've been talking to a man who I met on POF, we've not met in real life yet. He seems alright but incredibly forward about talking about sex. Not sure if I'm just being prudish or if this is just normal nowadays / or just a typical man, always thinking with his dick. We've been talking a couple of weeks over the phone and by text.

Stuff he's said :

I'm really highly sexed, I work out a lot so have loads more testoterone than other blokes so if I'm with a partner I need loads of sex
I'm quite grumpy, but I'll be fine after if you just sort me out (mmm, because grumpy is soooooo hot)
I have a thing about feet. Will you send me a pic of your feet? Will you send me a pic of your feet? Will you send me a pic of your feet? Oh go on!
I like foot jobs, I bet you can imagine what they are
Bet you're thinking, can't wait to rip his clothes off and take advantage
(loads of questions about my feet, are they soft, are they pretty, are they smelly (!) and, will I send a photo)

And he read me a load of guff about tantric sex off some website, over the phone. And not sex related, but has mentioned marriage or marriage related stuff at least 4 times, followed by, am only joking.


MirandaWest Wed 02-Apr-14 16:51:55

He just wants to have sex. If you do as well it might be ok, but if not I would block him now.

Sparklysilversequins Wed 02-Apr-14 16:53:05

shock He sounds utterly revolting.

Red Flags? More like a Red Marquee covered in red flags.

strongandlong Wed 02-Apr-14 16:53:20

Reg flags all over the place there.


MiniTheMinx Wed 02-Apr-14 16:53:36

Run very fast

NurseyWursey Wed 02-Apr-14 16:53:37

I think this one is quite obvious, he just wants to have sex. Not a relationship.

expatinscotland Wed 02-Apr-14 16:53:39

Yak. Skanky perv.

wrapsuperstar Wed 02-Apr-14 16:54:18

If all you're looking for is a quick, meaningless shag probably involving <boak> plenty of foot action, keep in contact with him. Though from what you've posted, even excluding the foot thing, I bet he'd be a lousy lay.

If you want anything more, anything at all, he will only disappoint. Cut him loose.

Floggingmolly Wed 02-Apr-14 16:54:43

Are you joking? He's warned you before you've even met that the antidote to his terminal grumpiness is you "sorting him out".
Oh, and he appears to have a foot fetish.
How could you resist? hmm

Betrayedbutsurvived Wed 02-Apr-14 16:55:14

Run as fast and as far as you can!

HellonHeels Wed 02-Apr-14 16:55:26

He doesn't sound nice. The foot stuff, well OK if that's your bag as well.

Seems as though he's just talking on about what he wants, what he's interested in. Does he take an interest in you or are you just there to meet his needs?

EirikurNoromaour Wed 02-Apr-14 16:55:38

Nasty, entitled sexual bully with a boring fetish. I can't believe you even have to ask.

LineRunner Wed 02-Apr-14 16:55:48

Do you not yourself think he sounds revolting? Because he does.

wannaBe Wed 02-Apr-14 16:56:35

what a creep.

TheCowThatLaughs Wed 02-Apr-14 16:56:43

Yuck, yuck, yuck, yuck!

InflatableBrick Wed 02-Apr-14 16:56:47

Just run. Run now.

santaandthearmadillo Wed 02-Apr-14 16:57:50

run as fast as your legs can take you..

babycow38 Wed 02-Apr-14 16:59:40

MASSIVE, waving, red flags!!!!

HesterShaw Wed 02-Apr-14 17:01:04

Grim. Of course this is a red flag. Grim grim grim.

FabULouse Wed 02-Apr-14 17:02:39

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MrTALL Wed 02-Apr-14 17:02:45

Dear god run - run fast ... you can do so much better

MrsAtticus Wed 02-Apr-14 17:02:50

yuck leggit

Dillydollydaydream Wed 02-Apr-14 17:03:58

Run! Quickly in the opposite direction.
I hate feet. Can't think of anything worse than sucking a men's hairy big toe.

JustSpeakSense Wed 02-Apr-14 17:06:44

I see that red flag too! He is just after sex, preferably with lots of kinky foot shenanigans. If that is what you want then that's fine. If you want anything else at all move on....quickly.

wyrdyBird Wed 02-Apr-14 17:07:17

Ew, how charming.
This is his best side he's offering you. His 'why not go out with me' sales pitch. Does this really appeal to you, in any way??

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