To sum up my situation:
- I am a SAHM with a toddler and a preschooler.
- I do some freelance work on the side but it only pays pennies compared to DH.
- All my inlaws live at the other side of the country so we seldom see them but DH and MIL talk on the phone regularly.
- A few months ago the boiler broke, and we were in a pickle. No savings, etc. So DH went to his DM asking for a loan.
- MIL and SIL told DH that I should get a job.
- After hearing this I sent MIL a message asking her what she meant (my wages wouldn't even cover childcare), and she sent one back saying she values work ethic. It was a vague 'dodging the question' kind of answer and then she stopped replying to my messages.
They've made other digs in the past, such as criticising my freelance on facebook (MY facebook page no less).
I understand that, to outsiders, this may all seem petty, but I find their hostility towards me baffling and incredibly hurtful. DH 'doesn't want to get involved'. He's stood up for me once (the Facebook saga).
Soooooooo MIL is visiting in 2 weeks. This is my opportunity to invite her out for a drink - just her and me - and then I can ask her what her issue is. Good idea, or bad? Any tips on how I should handle 'the confrontation'?