Thanks all
Before That's exactly where I am - the thought of missing out of the beautiful what might have beens... is far easier to handle than the unhappiness and feelings of insecurity. I came out of a shit marriage 17 months ago. I felt I had to stay and put up with that because of my children, because of the vows, because of the shame... But now, I'm content to end something that doesn't make me feel good.
soft that's it, what if he was on there just deciding whether or not to join that particular site or not... I only searched for him in his home town. He could have put somewhere else down.
louby No, I didn't want to just block him. I'm an adult after all! But it was an option!
poff That's what I'm going to do. I just need to work out how to say it. Part of me wants to give him the opportunity to explain, just out of curiosity of what he will say.
The thing is, we met on Match. When I messaged him, I only did so because it was 4am and I was feeling brave! I always, and only, messaged me who were 'out of my league' in the early hours of the morning because it didn't feel real! When he replied, I only continued the communication out of, again, curiosity. But it turned out that we had a fair bit in common and are really easy around each other. I suppose if you're used to beautiful, sexy women, a pale and pasty single mum from England probably isn't going to float your boat!
Shit. He's just emailed to tell me he misses me and he hopes my children are taking good care of me. (I left his house early this morning because it's mother's day). But it's just words isn't it? He could be emailing me from his email account on one tab, and searching for women online on another. It's ridiculous, I'm almost embarrassed that by saying something to him I'm admitting that I saw a website on his 'recently closed' list, came home and checked it out.
He's introduced me to some of his oldest friends. Apparently, they really liked me and have suggested we all go out. Just why? Why would you do it? What is he going to say to his friends? What's he going to say to his mother! Aren't all these people he's told I'm going with him going to wonder where I am?! What reason is he going to give! Just why?