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Anyone else's dad go on about other kid's achievements?

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superstarheartbreaker Fri 28-Mar-14 21:49:27

I feel a bit jealous but my dad always bangs on about how wonderful and talented my friends are. I'd quite like him to heap praise on me but I don't feel good enough.

I'm a bit down ATM and I'm jealous of the relationship he has with his (lovely) gf as I have been single for years. My mum died 3 years ago and whilst I do love his gf , they got together quickly after she died which was wired.
Her dd is very talented and he goes on about this. Not sure he feels proud of me.

They took me out for a drink tonight but I just felt jealous whilst they were all lovey dovey and I'm still alone. I am being out of order aren't i?

Twinklestein Fri 28-Mar-14 22:08:34

My mum has always gone on about other peoples' achievements, she puts certain people on pedestals and goes on about them while criticising her own family relentlessly, but I'm used to it now.

Why not praise friends' fathers and other guys you know, the equivalent usually shuts my mum up... grin

superstarheartbreaker Fri 28-Mar-14 22:23:39

Good plan twinkle...will try.

Twinklestein Fri 28-Mar-14 22:41:49

The other thing, more positively, is to detach yourself and remember you don't need his approval. If you'd like to be in a relationship, take positive steps to make this happen...

superstarheartbreaker Fri 28-Mar-14 22:45:02

I would like to find someone but at the same time feel meh and despondent (see other thread) .

IWroteToTheZoo Fri 28-Mar-14 22:59:19

My Dad constantly talks about his step-kids and step-grandkids - anything I tell him about me or my DS is compared to something they've done before.

I find it hurtful and very hard to deal with, but I keep trying to remind myself that I'm glad that he remarried after my mum died. The alternative would be him lonely and depressed, which would be much worse. I also know deep down he loves me and is proud of me, but that he's just useless at expressing it. They live in his home town too, so he sees a lot more of them.

I've also recently tried to do more of what Twinklestein says, and detach myself to an extent. I try to celebrate the positive stuff and ignore the negative stuff, and it is a lot less stressful.

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