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DH wont eat the food I cook!

(49 Posts)
Justeat Fri 28-Mar-14 13:27:19

Very fed up. I cook dinner and dh goes to his mother instead of coming home to eat with us.
He is home by 7 or so.
He knows I am making dinner.
Am sick of his comments about my cooking, family and friends all say I cook well, including his mum!
What wuld you do?

Ivehearditallnow Fri 28-Mar-14 13:28:19

How is his cooking?

Maybe it's time to find out x

Middleagedmotheroftwo Fri 28-Mar-14 13:29:10

I would ask him to cook on alternate nights, and go off to your mum's on a few of his nights.
I would also ask his mum for some of his favourite recipes.

Or possibly, just stop cooking for him.

JeanSeberg Fri 28-Mar-14 13:30:07

Tell him not to bother coming back from his mum's.

Fuckeroo Fri 28-Mar-14 13:31:09

Is he from an African culture?

I only ask because this is the third or fourth thread I've read the same, recently. I wonder if it's a thing?

Ploppy16 Fri 28-Mar-14 13:32:12

Just cook for you and any DC's you have and eat earlier if possible? If he's purposely excluding himself from your evening meal make damn sure he doesn't get a whiff of any food in your house! Cheeky fecker, is it not up to his standards?

Ivehearditallnow Fri 28-Mar-14 13:33:07

I think you get mummy's boy everywhere...

Seriously OP. Just stop cooking for him.

Or if you have the spare £ just leave a note 'me and the kids have gone for pizza... see you later'... he'll soon feel left out x

AdoraBell Fri 28-Mar-14 13:33:30

Why is his DM still cooking for him? If he were my son I'd advize him To Get home in time for dinner if I knew someone was cooking. Has he told her you don't cook?

Either tell him To move back in with Mummy or stop cooking for him on the basis that he eats elsewhere.

whatdoesittake48 Fri 28-Mar-14 13:36:12

have you spoken to his Mum. tell her that you are preparing meals at home for him and that him being there is leading to wasted food and problems.

Would she be receptive to that or is she the sort who loves to feed her little boy...

Ivehearditallnow Fri 28-Mar-14 13:37:02

So sorry to ask... is he definitely going to his mothers?

If so, why aren't the rest of you invited?

what does his mum say about this? Why on earth does she put up with it? Was he like this before you married?

Nomama Fri 28-Mar-14 13:38:37

Let him.

And tell him you are going to your mates for sex, as you don't like the stuff you get at home!

HavantGuard Fri 28-Mar-14 13:41:05

I'd leave an overnight bag out for him. If he's eating there he might as well sleep over too.

Justeat Fri 28-Mar-14 13:44:07

His mum confirms that he is there, I've heard him in the background.
Am thinking of putting the food in a box and taking it to her house, what wuld that acheive?
He can and does cook.

Quinteszilla Fri 28-Mar-14 13:47:39

His mum must be so pleased and proud.

Do you have children? If you dont, I would suggest leave him, as he will never cut the apron strings.

Middleagedmotheroftwo Fri 28-Mar-14 13:51:29

Or could you get into cahoots with his DM, and secretly cook a meal round her house, for her to serve as her own, and see if he spots the difference?

ghostwritten Fri 28-Mar-14 13:54:11

How long have you been married and how long has this been going on?
His mother should support you and refuse to feed him. Or invite you also; then no cooking or food bill. lol.
What's his cooking like?
Eating together is an important social interaction, I would be really fed up about this and know it would affect every other aspect of my relationship with my him.
While you are trying to sort this I would stop cooking for him as there is no point and its a waste of time, effort and food.

Justeat Fri 28-Mar-14 14:00:00

He then brings food home for ds from her!
Have told him not 2 bring.

Quinteszilla Fri 28-Mar-14 14:00:45

so he is teaching your child that your food is no good.

What a prick.

ghostwritten Fri 28-Mar-14 14:02:19

Think Middleaged suggestion is a good idea. Maybe do it for three straight days if it is practicable.
However maybe it has nothing to do with the food and more to do with attachment to his mother's apron strings?

SanityClause Fri 28-Mar-14 14:16:53

This is really rude, and both he and his mother know that.

Have you spoken to him about it? What does he say?

CogitoErgoSometimes Fri 28-Mar-14 14:18:02

You've got put your foot down and tell him to grow the fuck up. You, him and DS are supposed to be a family. What kind of marriage is it if one person is always sloping off to Mummy's for his din-dins?

RiverTam Fri 28-Mar-14 14:24:30

why is his mum cooking for him - she knows he has a home to go to! She's totally enabling this, she should be sending him on his way with a flea in his ear, not pandering to this bullshit!

Frizzbonce Fri 28-Mar-14 14:27:29

Nomama grin grin

Cotherstone Fri 28-Mar-14 14:29:54

He's a child. It might seem like a minor issue to him but it's not.

I'd be telling him that it is perfectly simple. He is part of a family, and so he needs to participate in planning and cooking and eating dinners as a family.

If he doesn't stop, cooking and shopping for him. Don't buy any of his particular foods etc.

He's acting like a child and to be honest, I think I'd almost be tempted to act like one too. If he doesn't like your cooking I'd stretch that to assuming he doesn't like your housekeeping, so the washing doesn't get done...

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