Hello first time poster hoping for some advice. Sorry it's so long. I've been with my DP for nearly 12 years. Always been v.happy together and were looking to buy a house and talking about trying for children (I have talked about this for a few years and he's not been ready.)
DP has always struggled to talk about his feelings to anyone: his attitude is that anger is something wrong and that people 'shouldn't' feel anger as it's pointless. Before Christmas we began arguing over little things and he also revealed he'd been seeing a counsellor in secret for a few weeks because he felt he needed support which I couldn't offer him (which I was very guilty about) and that escalated very quickly to the point where he moved out 6 weeks ago and is telling me he's been unhappy for years.
I was completely taken by surprise but eventually persuaded him to see a Relate counsellor with me. Both she and I think he may possibly be suffering from depression (we had individual sessions with her this week) or perhaps some kind of early midlife crisis triggered by thinking about houses/children but he refuses to even consider this and insists the problems stem from me apparently not letting him express his feelings whilst refusing to say what he wants to happen next in our relationship. He refuses to say anything about whether he even wants to move home whilst making plans to go abroad several times over the next few weeks meaning we're going to have to wait a while before we can have another Relate session.
I feel completely devastated and shell shocked by it all and I just have no idea what to do. I can't believe a few months ago we were so happy together and now we can't even speak to each other. Does anyone have any advice?
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Partner moved out, may possibly be depressed?
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Penguinpinata · 27/03/2014 22:12
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