Is it ever ok to sleep with a colleague?

[JetSetWilly]

I imagine most people will say no.. Why? Consenting adults, single (obviously), keep it professional

Does it always turn to shit?

[AnyFucker]

No, not always

Too many variables though to give a comment on individual cases.

Both single ups the odds of it being perfectly ok though

[ElizabethX]

You have to be sure you can disentangle cleanly if it all goes tits up. Dropping contact is obv not an option!!

[Ludways]

I got with a work colleague 15 years ago, we have 2 children and have been married 10 years this year.

Obviously it worked for me!

[JetSetWilly]

Thanks for your input

Both single.

On different floors so contact could be minimal if necessary ie Xmas and summer party.

Different teams but equal standing

Got the impression everybody always says no no no - bit unprofessional?

[Flexiblefriend]

I hope so. I've been married to a colleague for 10 years. I think he'd be a bit upset if I stopped sleeping with him now.

[morethanpotatoprints]

I've been married to mine for 22 years, and have 3 dc, I hope not

[ImAThrillseekerHoney]

Why on earth not? Your boss might be a bit problematic, or if you have to work in a small team forever, but different floors should be fine.

[AnyFucker]

In that situation, I would go for it

[NurseyWursey]

Yep.

It's how me and DP met. We worked at the same company, him a manager. He was my friend and helped me to get rid of my abusive ex.

Had a fling, fell in love.

[TheresLotsOfFarmyardAnimals]

Most people meet their spouses at work or the pub don't they?

[RiverTam]

I have, 3 times. Been with Number 3 for 12 years, he is my DH!

Only unprofessional if you let it be.

There were quite a number of couples where I met DH, I can think of 4 couples, now married with children (it's not a big company, maybe 50/60 people) - 2 couples still work there, in different depts.

[mammadiggingdeep]

One couple at work have a lovely relationship, doesn't affect their work at all. No problem.

The other couple make themselves look foolish- if they do come out on work drinks they're all over each other. If they argue we all know about it as the guy makes it really.

[mammadiggingdeep]

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[JetSetWilly]

Thanks for your input

Both single.

On different floors so contact could be minimal if necessary ie Xmas and summer party.

Different teams but equal standing

Got the impression everybody always says no no no - bit unprofessional?

[NurseyWursey]

Nope go for it.

[jayho]

I'm sleeping with a colleague, not that we sleep much We're at the same level within our organisation and in different teams with different reporting lines but in the same office. We're both single, consenting adults but neither he or I would like our other colleagues to be aware of our, umm, arrangement. It's private, we're discreet. But, we're sleeping together, not having a relationship. Have to say I would be very wary of having sex with someone who was in a position of power over me or vice versa.

[CalamitouslyWrong]

Loads of people meet their partner at work. I met DH at work.

[babybythesea]

At my old place of work it was par for the course. In fact, people tended to be a bit surprised if anyone managed to meet and date someone outside work - it was a kind of standing joke! I can think of four couples, myself and DH included, who are married as a result of meeting there. Loads of people got together and split up (including me with a previous colleague before I got with DH). Again, it was just a fact of working there. It was never a problem because everyone was grown up about it and didn't let it interfere with a working relationship.

[NurseyWursey]

The days of hotels and posh meals

[JetSetWilly]

Loads of replies! Oops sorry posted that twice

Ok well something else to add. He's 13 years younger than me.

So I don't imagine either of us are looking for a relationship
Does that change anything?

[Fluffycloudland77]

In the motor trade it's virtually compulsory

[JetSetWilly]

Jayho-sounds like a similar situation then-except probably the age gap

[JetSetWilly]

Motor trade-my lodger is in the motor trade and was just seeing someone on the quiet in work

There are couples in my office too. But I don't want it to get to that level

[puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE]

It's ok yes, good idea? Perhaps not.

[puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE]

Just seen your name OP I used to love that game!!