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what do you do with a husband who ..........

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bella1968 Wed 26-Mar-14 00:17:53

Marks a cross on the days on the calendar that we don't have sex! He d to do it in a diary a year ago and I felt really pressured now this calendar is on the kitchen wall for everyone to see.Admittedly no-one knows what the crosses mean but does anyone else's husband do this??

BOFtastic Wed 26-Mar-14 00:20:09

Er, no.

What a twat shock

Goldmandra Wed 26-Mar-14 00:20:10

I'd fill the next month with crosses just so he knows he's being a dick.

TheCatThatSmiled Wed 26-Mar-14 00:20:39

No they don't. At least no one that i know has admitted to it, and I have some pretty frank chats with my mates.

Pull the calendar down and throw it in the bin, tell him that if he carries on there will be a cross on every single day.

you do not OWE him sex.

Innogen Wed 26-Mar-14 00:21:00

I'd stop having sex with him.

TheCatThatSmiled Wed 26-Mar-14 00:21:56

Actually, just do what Gold says - much better idea

BOFtastic Wed 26-Mar-14 00:25:20

Gold- brilliant.

GhettoPrincess001 Wed 26-Mar-14 00:25:32

you felt really have sex I assume ?

Why are you with this juvenile, self centred, entitled cretin ?

justiceofthePeas Wed 26-Mar-14 00:29:16

I was about to suggest the same.
Cross off tomorrow for a start.

Wtaf is he thinking?

GhettoPrincess Wed 26-Mar-14 00:44:39

I agree with Justice. Get a pen and cross off every day for the rest of this month.

Go back to the days he's crossed off and write underneath those days things like:

No foreplay provided by you
Weight of your expectation made me feel defensive
You didn't ask in a nice way
I was tired
My vagina was still sore from the meaningless pounding I got last time
I'm to angry with you to relax
We don't communicate
You do not get sex as of right
My body is not a vessel to be used by you

EverythingCounts Wed 26-Mar-14 01:04:48

Gold's idea is great. He has no right to make an issue of you not having sex on any particular day! And the calendar thing is completely strange and intended to make you feel bad. Not good.

BillyBanter Wed 26-Mar-14 01:11:27

Oh em gee.


What is he like otherwise? How did you find out this is what it was?

I'm trying not to jump straight in with ltb.

LuciusMalfoyisSmokingHot Wed 26-Mar-14 01:22:28

Ugh...what a tasteless dickhead.

I agree with Gold, and just put a big D on the day too, just so he knows he a dick.

RafaellaNhaKyria Wed 26-Mar-14 01:28:34

What. The. Fuck.

To be perfectly honest, I would question whether I was happy with a person who respected me so little as a person and sought to publicly shame me into doing his bidding.

Life is too short for shit like that. I am incandescent on your behalf. What an utter twat! I hope he has some truly stellar redeeming qualities.

RafaellaNhaKyria Wed 26-Mar-14 01:29:34

And what Gold said too. Cross off the whole damn year while you're at it.

ThatVikRinA22 Wed 26-Mar-14 01:32:52

not only would i cross out the whole of next month - i would cross the entire rest of the year with a note saying until he stops pressuring you the crosses mean exactly what he made them mean!
tell him to stop being such a prick.

DioneTheDiabolist Wed 26-Mar-14 01:33:08

My first thought was: can you get a 5 year calendar and cross off everyday.blush

But my second (and probably better) thought is: why don't you want to have sex with your DH?

BillyBanter Wed 26-Mar-14 01:38:40

Because he's a massive Arsehole?

chateauferret Wed 26-Mar-14 02:05:51

That is well beyond bonkers. I can't think why someone would do something like that but surely any explanation would have to contain words like "selfish", "entitled" and "twat". And the solution would need to refer to sex and (one-way) travel. What an arsehole.

cupcake78 Wed 26-Mar-14 02:17:51

Consider why I still live with him!

Instead of crosses for next month you could tick everyday! Far more positive approach wink

ViviDeBeauvoir Wed 26-Mar-14 02:27:28

Was about to suggest the same as Goldmandra.

He would never have sex with me ever again if he was my partner!

What a twat.

ViviDeBeauvoir Wed 26-Mar-14 02:29:40

'Why don't you want to have sex with your DH'?

Because he marks the calendar with a big cross if you don't?
That in itself would put me right off as it would feel like he was pressuring me/emotionally blackmailing me.
Why does he feel the need to do this?

glastocat Wed 26-Mar-14 02:34:35

Bloody hell, really?

SmallBee Wed 26-Mar-14 02:39:16

Wow he sounds terrible.
I agree that the next month should be a dull month of crosses.
I would also be tempted to go back to the days that aren't crossed out & grade his efforts from 1-10.

SmallBee Wed 26-Mar-14 02:39:50

Not dull! Full! Stupid bloody phone.

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