It's been 6 months since I wrote this thread, and I don't seem to have been able to move forward in any way. He hasn't done anything since and has been apologetic and attentive and trying his best to regain my trust since then. He's very open about where he is etc. But I just don't trust him. I still have a nagging feeling that he has cheated even though I haven't discovered anything to suggest he has.
What can I do? I feel like it's no longer a healthy honest relationship (well if it ever was in the first place). I feel like I don't really know him, and I'm scrutinising everything he says in case it reveals something. I constantly check his phone, his facebook, emails and internet history. I don't want to live like this, but I love him, I want to be with him. I don't want the kids to have to go through the pain of their family breaking up. But I just can't get past this, I've tried so hard. Should I give it more time? Almost 20 years is a hell of a long time, I've spent more than half my life with him, can I really have been wrong about him for all that time?
Fuck!
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How can a relationship survive when the trust is gone?
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MojitoMadness · 25/03/2014 20:53
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