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I just need to get this out

(11 Posts)
MrsPear Tue 25-Mar-14 20:42:38

Another thread from me. I know I know. So Dh is angry again. First off it's my thought his brother has left - see my Aibu thread. Second that he lost a price job through gambling. Third my thought that we have no savings as an example in the last month £2000 paid in to joint account for bills near £3000 paid into his account for gambling and his own expenses (no bills all joint account) fourth that he can't fly home this Sunday because he has to sign on next Friday. Oh and none of his friends pay the amount we pay for bills e.g so and so only pays £500 for his family to live. Really in London?!

That's it rant over. I need work and a friendly LL that accepts top ups . Trouble is where? How? I wish I could wave a wand .

MargotThreadbetter Wed 26-Mar-14 01:10:14

Well doesn't he sound like a prize?
Selfish, tight fisted, gambles, working and signing on... hmm

I've not read any of your other threads, but from you OP alone - why exactly are you with him?

MrsPear Wed 26-Mar-14 07:26:54

Lack of an escape route. If I had one I would leave tomorrow but I need to get my confidence back and I don't know how

CogitoErgoSometimes Wed 26-Mar-14 09:02:27

Please consider talking to Womens Aid. They're famous for providing refuge to women in danger but they are also a good source of information for people in your situation.

Cabrinha Wed 26-Mar-14 09:50:19

Why is he signing on when he can pay £5K in a MONTH into your accounts?

Agree with a Women's Aid suggestion. They'll explain how to leave.

Finola1step Wed 26-Mar-14 09:56:24

Women's Aid and the Freedom Program.

This will not get better. Start working on your escape route now.

MrsPear Wed 26-Mar-14 14:51:12

In feb we had 5k then in March he lost the job because he was never there to supervise -gambling- and so we now have no income. We should have of plenty of savings and own a house but we don't because of the gambling. Which is my thought despite the fact he started before we met.

Mintyy Wed 26-Mar-14 14:54:11

Really MrsPear, its not your fault (fault not thought, just fyi or maybe your phone does funny autocorrects?). You need to separate from this person. Do you have family/friends supporting you?

SheMovesWiththeSparrows Wed 26-Mar-14 14:55:29

I'll be honest, I don't understand what on earth you are saying at all, but i'll presume it reads like nonsense due to the stress and trauma of living with a gambling no-good fuckwit. Do what everyone up there ^ said, and things will immediately start to make more sense. For both of us. grin

Seriously, do it.

yourehavingalaugh Wed 26-Mar-14 15:06:51

sorry I don't really know what you are talking about either.

hellsbellsmelons Wed 26-Mar-14 15:08:13

Well you know that none of this is your fault! Not at all.
Do as others have said and contact Womens Aid.
They can help you.
Do you have family close by at all?
This guy is a knob and you need to get free from him.
Him and his gambling will drag you down further the longer you stay.
Do you had kids together?

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