My partner and I decided to go our separate ways in late January. We had been together 5 years and although we were still very much in love we wanted different things for the future which couldn't be compromised on. I moved out of our house earlier this month, fully expecting to be a complete emotional mess once I was alone in my new flat. But... I've been fine I've had a little cry a couple of times when a sad song's come on the radio, but that's it. Either I have a heart of stone, or it's going to suddenly hit me like a ton of bricks any time now. Has anyone else experienced this?!
Thank you for replying. I don't feel particularly numb or strange, I've just been getting on with things as normal, really. Keeping busy with work and going out, though I've had quiet time as well. I have spoken to friends and family about it. I spoke to one friend in particular during the lead-up to the break-up, as I knew it would have to happen one day... perhaps I'd prepared myself mentally for it happening? It was still a shock when it did though.
I'm hating not knowing if or when the ton of bricks is going to come
I had exactly this a year ago and was the same as you. I was so torn and sad before I moved, but once it was done I actually felt positive most of the time, like I was going the right way. Occasionally had some tears but only the first couple of months.
I'm now in a new relationship with a guy who wants the same things as me and I know I made the right choice.
I know it doesn't always have to be a disaster, as I've had a couple of breakups before when I was fine - but in both those cases it was me who ended it, and I'd emotionally checked out of the relationship some time before the end. This time I still loved him very much, which is why I was expecting to be heartbroken.
Same here..I think I'd done my mourning for the death of our marriage while I was still in it. By the time I separated from abusive stbxh, I was emotionally done. Like a pp said, I'd done enough crying!