Today, suddenly. I've realised that I just don't have any friends. I thought that I had plenty but when I think about it, it is always me that makes effort. If I made no effort and stopped phoning, texting and facebooking people tomorrow then no one would bother at all.
This may sound a small thing but it is the straw that broke the camel's back. Today it has been my daughter's birthday. I did a facebook status about it being her birthday and most of my friends just "liked" the post, and couldn't even be arsed to type a happy birthday to my daughter. This is despite me remembering their birthdays, their children's birthdays.
A mutual friend's daughter also had a birthday today and they were all out in force on her status wishing her daughter a happy birthday.
No one ever wants to chat to me if it's about me. They all just want me to listen to them and then just switch off if ever I mention anything about me. I saw one friend this morning on the school run, who always likes to chat. She asked me how I was today and instead of saying great like I normally do I said that I was tired, and she just walked off.
Again, I know this sounds a small petty thing but it's just confirmed to me what I guess I've known inside. I've been through a really hard time in recent months and no one ever asks anything about me or what things are like for me.
I have been through this in the past and decided not to bother having friends anymore as it was just too much effort. I had about 3 months to myself where I didn't contact anyone. I am thinking of doing the same thing again. There doesn't seem to be any point.
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