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Does anyone else have strange friendships??

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MozzchopsThirty Mon 24-Mar-14 21:53:21

I mean unlikely friendships.

I have recently struck up a beautiful friendship with a man who lives across the Atlantic, and is almost old enough to be my father.

We talk about everything, our children, our relationships, work, leisure time. We support each other, offer advice and kind words. Recommend films or books to each other.
It's probably the most honest friendship I've had.

Is it weird or have I just been missing out on this type of friendship my whole life?
We email daily,

pictish Mon 24-Mar-14 21:54:17

I don't have any friends I email daily.

FarelyKnuts Mon 24-Mar-14 22:04:35

I have a friend in another part of the country, we text each other every day, chat about everything and nothing. We use each other for support (PTSD) and for a laugh. We met through a support forum and just clicked. We "get" each other.
She probably knows me better than anyone.
We've never met.

MozzchopsThirty Mon 24-Mar-14 22:06:32

Farely that's good smile
It's the same kind of thing.

Monique2013 Mon 24-Mar-14 22:12:06

Did you meet online?

Seminyak Mon 24-Mar-14 22:13:04

That sounds brilliant smile

CurlyhairedAssassin Mon 24-Mar-14 22:16:44

Is it just me or is anyone else wondering when he's going to ask to get in your knickers? grin

Only messing!!!

As long as he is a genuine fella I think it's nice. Some people you just click with.

JabberJabberJay Mon 24-Mar-14 22:18:08

One of my closest female friends is 25 years older than me and massively more wealthy.

None of that has ever mattered. We just click. It's a very refreshing friendship for me because she lends perspective to a lot of my problems. She has been there and done that with a lot of child/work issues and reminds me that this too shall pass.

Just curious OP-are you married? What does your DH think of your friendship?

Botanicbaby Mon 24-Mar-14 22:25:35

I can't imagine emailing someone on a daily basis no matter how much I liked them and clicked with them. It sounds quite intense for me.

Just out of interest, why do you think its the most honest friendship you've had OP? Is it because of the element of it not being face-to-face?

I think its fair to say that some people do come into our lives at certain times to meet some needs just as some others go and/or become less important to us.

PeppermintPasty Mon 24-Mar-14 22:28:22

Embrace it, it may not last forever. It's a great thing.

I had a wonderful friendship with my old English tutor,from college, who was generally considered to be an old fuddy duddy by most of the students. I found him to be one of the funniest, sharpest, most learned people I have ever met. We struck up a friendship that resulted in weekly contact by way of letters sent to and fro after I left college until he died some twenty years later.

The thing is, his letters were simply something else:he could really write, unlike me! He was so excited about writing, literature, the world around him, an amazing man. I was the only student he kept in contact with, I don't know why. There was never a hint of anything "improper", he was just a lovely person. He taught me so much about appreciating books, and writing. I think about him often, and miss him terribly. I was lucky to have such a great friend.

We met up once or twice in his later years, after he had moved into a retirement home with his wife, to help nurse her. But it was mainly a long distance friendship. Damn I miss those letters.

MozzchopsThirty Mon 24-Mar-14 22:35:46

Saddened that someone thinks he's 'just trying to get in my knickers' hmm

Like another poster says there is no hint of anything improper, we don't discuss anything like that.

Yes I suppose it's so honest because it's not face to face, we don't share friends, and can talk about whoever we want.
Daily sounds intense but sometimes it might just be a couple of lines or something funny. Or it may go a few days and send a big long email in the way you would chat to a friend over coffee.

I am very grateful for the friendship and tell him so.

CurlyhairedAssassin Mon 24-Mar-14 22:41:11

Aw, OP, I was only pulling your leg!

MozzchopsThirty Mon 24-Mar-14 22:55:55

smilesmile I saw that after I posted, sorry smile

Twinklestein Tue 25-Mar-14 01:35:55

I can't be arsed to write emails to anyone, the only people I email daily are work. But I am friends with 80 year old, and a 86 year old and a 96 year old...

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