I don't know whether this really belongs in money or legal, but at its heart it's a relationship problem so here goes.
My partner and I have split for good after a turbulent few months. We have been on and off since our baby was a few months old and the situation has became increasingly intolerable. There was a constant undercurrent of resentment. Despite not wanting to argue in front of him we were, I didn't want him to get older and hear us arguing from upstairs like when we were kids. I am upset, but sure this is the right thing. Our relationship has broken down beyond repair, I no longer feel any love or tenderness towards him at all, cannot get over how he has let me down. I used to fall out with him but know we would be back together soon, that is gone now. I feel we have made the final break and I can see no way back for us.
I am just so upset at how I have let my son down. I am back living at my parents sharing a tiny room with my baby- I have to shuffle in sideways to avoid banging in to his crib. I don't know what I will do when he is too big for his crib which is rapidly approaching. He will be sharing with me in a single or in a travel cot. I have left so many of his things behind because there is just no room for them .
There is no way out for us, I am currently on maternity leave but will be going back to a low paid, full time job on a temp contract. I cannot see them letting me go part time as they will want to use it as an excuse to get rid of me as the department is downsizing. I have no savings, just a mountain of credit card debt. Although I was living with my partner and contributing to the household I never 'officially' moved in in any real sense. All bills were in his name, I am still on the electoral roll at my parent's address, most of my mail and accounts are set up with that address.
He owns a house which I have no interest in, the mortgage and deeds are solely in his name (don't want to drip feed so will say his parents gave him almost all of the money for it, he has a small mortgage). I wouldn't want to take any part of his house even if I could but I feel this leaves me in a sticky situation. The council/Housing Association will just see me as living at my parents, that we have a roof over our heads, but it's not realistic in the long term. They are wonderfully supportive but I can't live in their box bedroom with my son forever, they cannot move in their own house for our possessions.
I think I just want to know if it gets better...
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OneAprilDay · 23/03/2014 00:38
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