Bit of background: I've been with DP for 6 years. Two young children age 5 and 3. Lots of problems but we've pulled through. He's inherently selfish, I'm branded lazy because I have Lupus and it all goes around in circles with lies, physical abuse from him to me and this isn't the first time he's left.
I should be glad to be rid of him. I know it's for the best but I am so in love it hurts.
This morning when I was in the shower he took our eldest child to school. Two minutes later I came downstairs to be with our 3 year old to find all of his stuff had gone including phone charger, clothes, paperwork etc and his SIM card left on the table for me to find.
He'll be at his mum's but I can't contact him at all as I don't know her new house number (he had it in his phone). She really dislikes me so would lie about him being there and obviously he doesn't want contact at all because I've got no way to contact him rather than showing up and hoping for the best.
I rely on his wage to top up mine and pay our bills. It feels like he's left me with all the bills,children etc while he can do whatever he wants no questions asked. I'm really, really angry, confused, upset all at once. Our relationship has been rocky but we always worked through any issues and we're fine for a while. No other woman that I know of as he works nights and otherwise is almost always at home.
I don't know what to tell my daughters. I don't know how to cope or where to go from here. I'm just in between seething anger at his selfish ways and hysterical tears. I've got no family close by and no friends who can see me today or tomorrow. I've just got to carry on.
I guess I'm just looking for advice. I know I'm well rid of him but the rest is a complete grey area.
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whattheelle · 21/03/2014 13:41
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