I've name changed for this post. I suppose I'd just like some advice. I'm so confused about my marriage. We just seem to be making each other unhappy but we have a two-year-old DD and I can't bear the thought of splitting up our family.
We've been together nearly ten years and married for almost three. We were love's young dream at the start and moved in very quickly. But in all honesty, I don't think that we should have got married. The warning signs were there.
He has a terrible temper and we've always had bad rows. Although he's never been violent, he's the sort of bloke who punches walls etc out of frustration. I sometimes find that I'm walking on egg shells around him.
We rarely have sex (initially we did but things soon petered out and he never wanted it). By some miracle, I got pregnant on our honeymoon and we now have a beautiful little girl. I feel as though I've spent the last two years in a fog as I had a touch of / anxiety and I've only recently started to feel like myself again. He was supportive when I was feeling down, which makes me feel even more guilty about the way I feel towards him now.
But the truth of it is that, now I can see clearly again, I'm scared that we're falling apart. Although he tells me that he loves me all the time, we (still) never have sex. He flies off the handle at the slightest thing. Tonight, he came in after having been drinking with colleagues and immediately flew into a temper when I disagreed with something he said. He threw the TV remote control at me, hitting my arm - it really hurt. When I told him that he shouldn't have done it, he started bringing up drunken misdemeanours I'd apparently committed when we'd first got together nearly ten years ago, as though that balanced it out.
I told him: 'I don't think we're right together any more' and he said that he had been thinking the same for the last few months.
Yet, five minutes earlier, we'd been talking about having another baby. I'm so confused. I don't know what to do.
He is a brilliant dad and our DD adores him but I'm not sure we can carry on like this.
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Scared my marriage is ending
soconfusednow · 19/03/2014 23:40
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