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relocation and relationship

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movingsoon23 Wed 19-Mar-14 18:48:03

I am in a relatively new relationship and we are switching from being long-distance to living close to each other. I'm really excited about this but I'm worried about the pressure it will put on the relationship. I'm leaving behind all of my friends and family. He is really happy about my move and is keen for me to meet his friends but I also want to make my own life and not be reliant on him for a social life. Neither of us have DC and are in our early 30s.

I just wondered if anyone has been in a similar situation and has any advice for me?

movingsoon23 Wed 19-Mar-14 19:36:09

I should probably say that I know I'm overthinking this!! I haven't been in that new relationship honeymoon period for about 10 years. If I followed my heart I'd just spend all my time with him and forget about anyone else. My head, of course, is telling me to be sensible.

LikeATeenager Wed 19-Mar-14 23:51:36

No advice I'm afraid I just wanted to say good luck as I'm doing exactly the same thing in June!!!!

BeforeAndAfter Thu 20-Mar-14 00:08:06

The best experiences of my life have been when I've followed my heart. I assume you're not living together as you say "close to" which is wise at this stage.

If you have a job in your new town that will help you find like-minded people too. Otherwise you can join meetup groups in your new town or subscribe to city socialising which is good in London but I've not tried it elsewhere. A final thought is volunteering. You can usually find something that appeals and gets you out and about.

Good luck!

movingsoon23 Thu 20-Mar-14 10:24:47

Thanks LikeATeenager - good luck to you too!

BeforeAndAfter - thanks for the reply. It would be very easy to move in with him as he owns a house which he lives in alone - however I feel that having my own space is really important. Also, I do have a fab new job so that will keep me occupied too. Its very specialist so I'll have at least something in common with the people there. Also going to join a running club. Volunteering is a great idea.

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