I've been reading and posting on here for a while now. some may agree with my views and advice and some may not but hey, we all deal with things in different ways and that's ok.
There does seem to be some common issues that couples/families need to deal with though.
Couples/Families don't seem to have the ability to talk honestly with each other. From a guy's point of view I kinda get it because in general we don't seem to be made that way. It's either too embarrasing to talk about or we don't want to upset the status quo. It's a guy thing but it does not help us! We, as a gender, really need to open up more and be prepared to discuss things regardless of how uncomfortable they are. My wife and I learnt to communicate even though we both thought we were good communicators.
There is no shame in seeking help from outside sources/proffessionals (councellors) so if you are having problems please learn to talk to each other, don't row, have an adult conversation. A row will only serve to get everyones back and defences up. Walk away from a row and come back to have a conversation when the time is right. I can't possibly do any harm!
Sometimes we make the wrong decisions in taking a partner, we don't often, as a race get it right, first time round. Reading through some of the posts on this board horrifies me. Some partners (mostly guys on here) are really not worth wasting anymore of your time with. Don't be afraid to LTB please. Yes it will be hard to start with, it will be upsetting, your world will fall apart, you won't be able to stop crying, all you will want to do is curl up in a ball and forget everything but it WILL get better and you WILL be better off. This may come as some very harsh advice but sometimes you really do need to just get on and do it and roll with the bad times.
Even if you don't have a support network of friends and family there are many other forms of support including some of the experieced posters on here, you just have to seek them out.
Chances are if you've mad a mistake in choosing a partner and it comes to it you will be happier on your own than with some of the horrible guys some of you post about.
So conversations, accepting that it's ok to have chosen the wrong partner and having the balls (insert female equivallent) to LTB are my sage pieces of advice.
Very generallistic I know so what other general peices of advice would you give given the general theme of posts here?
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Andy1964 · 19/03/2014 17:29
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