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Lady gardens…..what's the fashion these days?!

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WTFwasthat Wed 19-Mar-14 10:26:46

In a new relationship and very likely to consummate soon wink, but I am a bit concerned at what men expect these days. Is everyone having vagazzles, brazilians etc. Do ordinary women - like myself - just go for neat and tidy? I'm feeling self conscious and a bit embarrassed.

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow Wed 19-Mar-14 10:28:27

I am "au-natural" like a 1970's porn star.

If my dates don't like it they can fuck off.

I think "all off" is the fashion these days.

It's up to you though.

CogitoErgoSometimes Wed 19-Mar-14 10:30:05

Lupins, hollyhocks and snapdragons...

ScarletButterfly Wed 19-Mar-14 10:32:22

I'm too much of a pansy for that fancy waxing so just shave it all off. No idea what's actually 'In' at the moment. Suspect that your man will not actually care though!

Angelina77 Wed 19-Mar-14 10:35:49

Assuming he's over 18 he won't care what it's like.

What are your hopes for his man-garden, just out of interest?

Cabrinha Wed 19-Mar-14 10:41:33

You should never sleep with someone that you can't trust not to judge you by your pubic hair!
If you're not that comfortable with each other, then wait.
What do YOU like?

FWIW, I occasionally wax more off (not all, I personally think it looks odd) than usual because my partner likes the feel of that. And I like to "treat" him. But only because he fully accepts that I wax what I want to.

Lweji Wed 19-Mar-14 10:46:06

Why worry about what "men expect"?

Men expect a woman, and woman bits, I suppose. wink

If a particular man prefers more or less hair, then it's something you can work out by talking over the relationship, according to your own preference as well.

Personally, I'll never do it all, because the regrowth hurts too much.

BuzzardBird Wed 19-Mar-14 10:53:32

I can't help it but I am always suspicious of men that want me to look like a child.

Dillydollydaydream Wed 19-Mar-14 10:55:00

Clean. That's about all he would worry about really.
I'm sure just a little trim will suffice.

Joysmum Wed 19-Mar-14 10:59:35

It's not about fashion, you are your own person and should do what you feel happiest with, not be a victim of fashion.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius Wed 19-Mar-14 11:00:15

If he is going to reject you because you don't have his preferred choice of pubic topiary, then he's not really a keeper, is he?

liquidstate Wed 19-Mar-14 11:01:39

I don't put my undies on the washing line. Nor do I send them to the MILs to be tumble dried in the winter.

I once had very expensive underwear stolen from a line so am naturally cautious.

CharleeWarlee Wed 19-Mar-14 11:03:43

I'm 24 but not sure on the fashion. I have been completely shaved since I was 15. Personally I don't like pubic hair on myself (mainly due to periods and messiness of hair when heavyconfused) my ex liked hairy but my current partner takes me as I am....

I don't think men are that fussy these days.....unless they are 15/16

Just make sure your tidy and comfortable yourself smile

liquidstate Wed 19-Mar-14 11:03:57

sorry don't know how that last post happened!!! blush grin

I was trying to say I rock a neat 70s vibe, can't be faffed with anything else.

Also I heard men shaving it all off do it to make their bits look bigger.

Lweji Wed 19-Mar-14 11:10:11

At 15/16 they are hardly men, and I'm sure at that age they will be most grateful for anything that come their way. grin

ThinkIMmad Wed 19-Mar-14 11:24:37

I dont care whats in fashion mine is all off and has been from a very young age always hated pubic hair. OH has never known me any other way and dont intend on letting him see me hairy. When he first saw me undressed he loved the fact i was bald

whatdoesittake48 Wed 19-Mar-14 11:49:50

I just do whatever I feel like. My husbands preferences are not the same as mine, but I try not to let that influence my own choice. the fact is that it is my body to do with as I wish. I never tell him what I like (except that I really like beards and he refuses to grown one...).

Actually thinking about it - when it comes to men's bits - i have no preference - truly. So hubby makes his own choice about that too. I don't have the right to tell him what I prefer in any case.

LoisPuddingLane Wed 19-Mar-14 11:52:35

I am a seventies muff chick as well. I like hairy blokes but they have a horrible habit of shaving these days. Vile.

lesbican Wed 19-Mar-14 11:56:30

I shave mine, but also let it grow a little, can't stand hairy muff on myself or my gf, neither can she

GuybrushThreepwoodMP Wed 19-Mar-14 12:13:12

Grow mine down to my knees and plait flowers into it. Sometimes go for a dreadlock.

LoisPuddingLane Wed 19-Mar-14 12:14:33

I have been known to weave a basket and carry my shopping in mine.

Andy1964 Wed 19-Mar-14 12:58:32

PMSL at some of the replies.

FWIW, As long as I don't have to take an afro comb to part the locks then whatever is fine.

MatryoshkaDoll Wed 19-Mar-14 13:06:19

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SadFreak Wed 19-Mar-14 13:07:11

I am told its cool to be as bald as a coot down there with every last hair even around the arse hole to be gone.
I have a brief attempt at a trim around the edges every ince in a while but am not getting my rug out for playtime anytime soon.
I was wondering about this the other day should I ever ever venture into bothering with sex ever again. I guess if he is into porn in a big way he may bf hoping fir a baldy fanny but really us women should tend to our fanny hair in whatever way pleases us.
Go as you please and if he makes an untoward comment pull your knickers back up and bid him farewell.

MaryMungoAndMidgies Wed 19-Mar-14 13:19:51

Undercarriage epilated but the front garden is seventies. I used to just leave a strip but partner loves the full on, longish, hairy look. (Because I'm worth it). Good compromise for us both. I do sometimes grow the underneath for a treat.

Got to say, it's been quite liberating to leave it. I have to do the underneath though. I wear big pants to work as lots of bending/stretching, and the hair got caught so many times in the elastic. I never have a minute or the privacy to readjust so bare it is. grin

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