Exdp & I split up in December. Been together 15 years. 4 dc. Baby is 6 weeks old. 2 ds , 5&9 have SNs. Dd is 12. Very limited contact with dc, his choice.
Exdp wants to try again. He came to visit last weekend. First time he's seen the baby, though I've emailed photos daily since she was born.
It was a difficult weekend for me. It was very strange.
I didn't feel comfortable at all. I feel sorry we've ended up where we are. I totally take responsibility for being a whinging demanding hormonal mad women leading to me asking him to leave.
He won't come to counselling. He doesn't see that he had any part to play in the relationship breaking down.
He's in a really bad way. I was really shocked by him . He's put on an enormous amount of weight. He's due to have major surgery in the next few months & needed to lose weight not put it on. He generally hasn't been looking after himself.
It's hideously hard being on my own. The boys are incredibly difficult. Ds9 is especially hard. I've no RL support. No family locally. Few friends. I have 2 grown up dc but they both.live over an hour away& see them about once a month.
I'm already back at work. Only a few hours a day but as I'm self employed I need to earn. I've actually managed to reduce my cases but it also means less money. Exdp hasn't worked since we split.
He wants to come home. Everyone will be happier if he does - except me. It would make sense in every respect. I'm really worried about him. If he doesn't come home, he has nothing. No family & few friends. His mum died 6 months ago. He will need to be looked after when he gas the operation. It's life threatening, it's been cancelled once as there was no ICU bed available.
I know what most will advise but do i make my decision knowing i will be the only person to be happy with my decision?
My decision will effect 4 dc & someone I care about - WWYD?
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I really don't know how to deal with this...
Shellywelly1973 · 18/03/2014 04:00
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