Power Control Basically he has ishoos and cannot accept the fact you have escaped his evil clutches. I am sure you are minimising contact but is there anything else you can do to protect yourself and the DC? Can you move further away? I wouldn't waste too much time trying to psychoanalyze the fucker. He is vair vair odd and you have done extremely well to get rid. Keep your distance. Stay safe.
I have also found that Ex has 'upped' his game. I find that the best response is none. If I don't fuel his and OWs antics by reacting, the fire goes out sooner. I have a separate mobile number and email address for him. I only switch the mobile on when the children are in his care. I read the first line of any email when I have someone with me and if the tone is hostile, I delete straight away. I too hope that this will all end someday soon.
I'm sorry jayho, it is really shit. On good days you will think, 'well thank fuck i'm no longer with the bastard.' on bad days it will still get to you. I started a similar thread a while back where I got some really good advice. Sorry, I tried to find it to link but I think it may be gone. But basically:
You are not responsible for his behavior towards you
Nothing you do will stop him being an abusive person. He will always try to threaten and control…don’t give him anything to push against
Hi Anger and his Agression are His Problem. Nothing you can do will change it.
Try and stay strong. Set good boundaries for yourself. Minimise contact as much as humanly possible. And when all else fails, have a drink! ;)