My DH of 16 years told me before Christmas he had no feelings for me. We muddled through but after Christmas things changed. He said a couple of horrible things to me, which he said was him just telling the truth. I reacted badly to these comments and said some really horrible things back.
One of the things he said to me was that sex the last couple of times was just about sex, and could have been with anyone. He said the Same about Christmas Day - he would have enjoyed it just as much if I hadn't been there. When he said these things I flipped and said some awful things in response - not proud of them BUT was waiting for an operation, mega stressed and hormonal probs and bleeding three out of four weeks.
Thing is he left after row number 4. (Yep only 4). He is now blaming me because he cannot trust me not to hurt him again. We had an amazing 14 years of marriage and a terrible last 18 months - I never got over a miscarriage and tried to hide it, dad was ill, family deaths, work stresses etc. I am at the stage now whee I am questioning - is this all my fault, did I cause it - or did I behave like most people would by fighting back and trying to hurt back???? I need to know if I was wrong - should I have not reacted???
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Is it my fault?
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