I just need to get this out somewhere as I can't really rant irl. My ex and I separated last July after 23 yrs. Dcs 11 & 7. Relationship great until we had the children, then he became miserable, negative about everything, moody. Never did anything with the kids, never wanted to do anything with me, no sex for last few yrs etc etc.
I caught him twice during our relationship texting & phoning other women & have always suspected that was just the tip of the iceberg. He was v secretive with his phone, met another woman on a weekend away etc. But he would never admit he'd done anything wrong. Said they were all just friends etc.
So we finally split in July, but he didn't move out till Sept. The day before he left I found yet another bunch of texts to another woman and this had apparently been ongoing for months if not years.
I've now moved on and met a new guy. Ex continues to be miserable. I told him I was seeing someone & he didn't like it. He doesn't want me to introduce him to the children yet (this is fine though as I'm not ready to)
Then yesterday he called me and finally admitted he was seeing this woman. I knew already obviously, had seen their 'likes' to each other on facebook all last year which used to make me feel sick. I did send her a short message last year to say I knew, and that I knew she was married. (Not particularly proud of this as it prob seemed quite threatening but I wanted her to know I knew)
So he called me yest and started gushing about her. She's been in an abusive relationship, her dh is a twat who nearly raped her and she's been trying to get out for years. Ex has no doubt 'helped her' to finally leave but apparently she's terrified that I'm going to tell her husband and my ex rang to ask me not to! My ex is so convinced that he's done nothing wrong he said that now she's left him, he's not been 'having an affair' or anything.
So both of them have conveniently forgotten that they were both emotionally involved with each other when ex was with me and when she was with her husband. And they have the nerve to ask me not to say anything!
I'm not going to, but a part of me really wants to!! I will be the better person and walk away with my head up, but how can they think this is the basis of a good relationship? They've both cheated on their partners so how can they not think the other might cheat on THEM?
I'm blazing, but holding my tongue. What an absolute pair of knobs.
And deep breath..
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Ex and OW request. Just need to get this out.
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RollerCola · 15/03/2014 09:44
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