How to kickstart se* life

[Wheelerdeeler]

We have both ignored it for months. No reasons. Just laziness and broken the habit.

How can we get this back on track?

[TheFabulousIdiot]

Stop ignoring it? Talk. Think about what might be causing it?

[TheFabulousIdiot]

Stop being lazy?

[ouryve]

Your seX life obviously has a bit missing.

Maybe not be so uptight about typing the word, for a start.

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See. It's easy. Or are you on a server with a smut blocker of some sort? This thread might be a bit hard if you are.

[SolidGoldBrass]

Talk first. Remember that the only thing that matters is that both of you are content with the frequency of having sex - pay no attention to rubbish about being 'normal'.

Do you want to have more sex? Do you think your partner does? It's possible for a couple to be happy together and have very little sexual contact if both have low libidos and/or other preoccupations.

[Brittapieandchips]

If you both want to, maybe you could try doing "touchy" things that aren't actually sex, with no pressure to actually have sex, if that makes sense?

I know that when I was with my ex, before things went completely tits up, obviously, I had a time of not wanting to have sex because I felt like there was too much pressure to do the whole repertoire, so I ended up withdrawing entirely from any physical contact so as to not be accused of "prick teasing" etc (or even feel like I was "prick teasing") So we set a rule of no sex for a couple of weeks, which sounds odd, but worked. So you do things like holding hands, cuddling, massages, baths together or whatever, but without the pressure of sex and it helps you rediscover being intimate.

Do not do any of the "spice up your sex life" things (fluffy handcuffs, costumes, crazy positions, etc) unless you are actually into them or up for a laugh because otherwise it can be the most awkward thing ever...

[Lweji]

It's a marriage, with two people, so maybe you should ask him how he thinks both of you can get back on track first?

What was your sex life before?
Do you not feel comfortable talking about it or approaching him? Do you still cuddle and show physical affection for each other?

[Freyalright]

You need to prevent over fishing and protect the seabeds