I'm bored stiff with my stupid ex husband.
We've been apart 3 years now, only managed to divorce the fucker last year as he was so obstructive about financial settlement (tried to hide £60k, as an example).
We moved to this area together but separately, I didn't have to come here, but chose to to keep the DC near him. He moaned and whined then that I had chosen a house too far away from him - 20 mins drive.
Since then he has remarried, and moved. He chose not to move into the DCs school catchment, and remained about 20mins away.
I am now buying a house with my DP. It is in the school catchment, perfect for the DC, but 20mins further away. So 40mins from him. He'll still have the kids directly from school, and take them to the same school - so no impact on him at all really.
You would think I was moving to Australia.
The second text he sent me said 'you'll regret this.'
the texts continued, telling me I am 'SELFISH SELFISH SELFISH'. 'How DARE I take the children away from him' 'I have never ever considered his feelings and the impact on him' it's a 'STUPID move', 'I am not making a drama - it is one', 'a total lack of consideration for my feelings'
Lots more telling me what a bad mother I am and that I never give them stability (I work shifts in a career he has always disapproved of as 'not conducive to family life' - yet 1000's of women do it...), and he can see I will only ever think of myself.
He phoned me twice and I hung up on him twice as he was swearing and shouting.
I've ended up, thanks to previous advice from mumsnet, sending a text that said if he continues I'll block him and only communicate through a solicitor - he responded 'who the fuck do you think you are?'... but no more.
Just needed to get it all off my chest really. He's such a total pain in the backside. I'm just wondering if it will ever end, and how on earth I ended up linked to such an annoying bastard. I knew he would react badly, and have been dreading telling him. DP, the kids and I are so happy about this move and this house and he's really trying to take the shine off it. I'm determined he wont. But he kind of has already.
I wish he would just disappear up his own arse.
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FightingFires · 09/03/2014 22:47
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